Review: Dame Com 

Magic wands are iconic. In 1968, the Hitachi Magic Wand introduced our parents and grandparents to the joys a versatile and powerful vibrator can provide! In its heyday, it was the undisputed champ of providing an effortless O. But the design hasn’t seen much of a refresh in the last half-century. That’s where Dame’s Com vibrator comes in. Dame’s take introduces an ergonomic body, without losing any of the original’s magic.

The Hitachi Magic Wand’s utility as a masturbation aid made it a popular tool for sex researchers in the 1970s—and as a medical device prescribed to people with vulvas who suffered from anorgasmia (difficulty achieving orgasm). Ever since, there have been hundreds—probably thousands—of sex toys following the happy trail bushwacked by the original. 

Most major sex-tech companies offer some version. You’ve definitely seen one in a sex shop, a porno, or maybe even your mother’s top dresser drawer. Wand vibrators look like overgrown ice cream cones—a broad round head set atop a tapered, conical body. Historically, I haven't been a big fan. Compared to newer, more innovative designs, wands sometimes seem lackluster and uninspired.

The Dame Com introduces an ergonomic angle to the wand itself. Think those angled Reach toothbrushes versus a regular old straight one. The angle makes it really easy to find a good spot on any genitals or erogenous zone. By changing the angle of approach, the Com gives you much finer control of the toy, like drinking out of a bendy straw instead of a straight one. The Dame Com does the reaching for you, which is more of a relief than you might expect.

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When you’re using it by yourself, the Com sort of disappears from your awareness. You’re not thinking about holding it just right, you’re not trying to ignore the cramp in your forearm. Its versatility also makes it really fun to experiment with. You can reach just about everything no matter what position you’re in. Whether you’re laying on your back, on your stomach, on all fours, sitting up, it can hit all the spots (even a sore shoulder). No matter which genitals you have, this toy is really fun to play with. 

Like most vibrators, it can take some trial-and-error to find a good position, especially if you’re using it on a penis. But this is still definitely a toy I’d categorize as genital-agnostic, and that’s always a huge plus.

Part of the reason the Com works so well on all bodies is that its soft head produces deep, rumbly vibrations that stimulate your internal genital structures. But it's actually pretty quiet. Other magic wands tend to buzz like a swarm of sexually frustrated bees—nobody’s idea of a good time. Even at the Com’s highest, most hand-numbing intensity, you have to strain to hear it from a room away. If you cover it with a blanket, you can’t hear it at all. Behind a closed door? Total stealth mode.

The Com isn’t without its shortcomings. You’ll get only about an hour of use out of a single charge. For comparison, the wireless Hitachi Magic Wand gets you closer to three hours on a single charge—but it’s huge. Other competitors of a similar size to the Com are typically in the 90-minute to two-hour range. Still, that’s more of a word of caution than a dealbreaker. This is just a toy you definitely want to keep on the charger so you don’t end up leaving yourself hanging.

The Hitachi Magic Wand and its successors may have historical importance, but their form factor has always had a fatal flaw: It's straight, and your body isn’t. Modern vibrators are squishy, flexible, ergonomic, and made to reach the parts of your body you want to introduce them to. Too many magic wands look like toys from the 1970s—because they literally are. They were good back then, but it’s 2022 and we deserve better. The Dame Com is just better.